Tear Down The Wall

If you’re a fan of the Beatles, you should listen to The Beatles Channel on Sirius XM. Some of the Lennon/McCartney lyrics are timeless, with life lessons that are relevant to all of us.

In Eleanor Rigby, the lyrics, “Leaving her face in the jar by the door” got me thinking about all the times we appear brave on the outside while we’re crumbling on the inside.

Norm, a close friend of mine, has said many people lead lives of quiet desperation. We do not shout out hateful comments on Twitter, as a certain President does. Instead, we tend to internalize and compound our problems by revisiting the pain over and over. Most of the time, we do more damage to our own self-image by reliving the actions or comments directed at us, making assumptions we tell ourselves must be true.

Like a mason building a wall one brick at a time, we isolate and insulate the core of who we are to prevent further damage. In reality, the opposite is true.

The only way forward, the only way to find joy and hope, is to tear down the wall and love who we are. Then we can love others for who they are. The only way you experience love is when you give love away.

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Sounds like a major change in our lives, doesn’t it? The lose weight kind of change, or the stop smoking kind of change.

My daughter is stuck in her current reality because she cannot break her vision of the future down into manageable steps. The size of the task overwhelms her, and she does nothing.

This phrase came across my internet today: “Remember, our courage doesn’t always roar aloud. Sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering, I will try again tomorrow. So stand strong. Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.”

Make the decision now to tear down the wall that is keeping you from your tomorrow. The wall went up brick by brick. It can come down the same way.

If you’d like some help, my email is Dennis@dennisyanke.com.