Frequently I am asked about "Loving On Purpose."
The questions (mostly from the male sex) I am sorry to say, have a similar theme.
“Do I have to do this all the time?”
“Everyday?”, ‘How do I make it new?”
“Won’t she get bored?"
So it goes.
The simple truth about "Loving On Purpose" is that all you have to do is just have to show up!
Zig Ziglar stated "People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.” Nothing could be closer to the truth! Especially in marriage!
We are bombarded every day with so many things and so much "stuff." (Sailors call it flotsam and jetsam - all the garbage their boats run through) and we try to process it. A simple solution is to have a personal filter.
Ask yourself these questions:
“Will this information make me a better person?"
"Will this information help me be more effective in my work?"
"Will this information improve the relationship with the people I love?”
When the answer is "no" make every effort to deflect the useless information! Put it away! Pass on it! Hit the "delete" button! If it is gossip, do not be intrigued, shut the purveyor down. Simplify your life! Period!
Everyday tell your spouse you love them. Everyday touch them and show them what they mean to you. Take nothing for granted. Each and everyday ask if there is something you can do for them. The smallest of gestures can have the greatest impact! All you have to do is show up, focus on them, put them first and "Loving On Purpose" easily takes form and naturally occurs.
"Loving on Purpose" doesn't cost you a dime! You don't have to think of anything creative or over the moon! A new approach each time is not a requirement and trust me, you will never tire of giving your love away . In fact the more you do the better you will feel! The more love you give away, the more you will have to give! It's bountiful and endless!